Famous Kaine Event
Dan was a passionate CrossFit trainer, artist, music aficionado, fashion icon, and a gentle soul with expressive eyes and a keen sense of humor. He faced the challenges of drug addiction with courage and determination. After achieving a gold medal in an Olympic-style weightlifting competition, he tragically succumbed to an accidental overdose just weeks later—following his longest stretch of sobriety.
This new meditative space, Dan’s Deck, stands beside the Jardín de Mariposa — the butterfly garden and swing we dedicated five years ago to our beloved daughter, Katelyn Joy Derstine. Katelyn was innocently and tragically killed in a car accident in 2006 at the age of 20 while attending the University of Florida, where she studied Environmental Horticulture. Dan had attended Full Sail University in Florida, pursuing his passion for the arts.
Now, their memorials sit side by side, symbolizing the enduring bond between step-siblings and offering a sanctuary for locals and visitors alike to reflect, heal, and feel the lasting power of love.
In a deeply meaningful moment, I surprised our family by dedicating Dan’s Deck on June 22nd. We gathered with friends and loved ones for a beautiful brunch catered by Nicolle Fogarty of Slopeside Tavern, and released 100 Monarch butterflies—each gently enclosed in an envelope labeled “Coach Dan.”
Jeff and I share our story openly because grief is real and lifelong, yet we believe it’s possible to move forward with gratitude, love, and purpose. Despite unimaginable loss, we are committed to celebrating life—for our children here with us: Dane, Katelyn’s loving brother, his wife Pamela, and Judy, Dan’s sister, and her husband Jay—as well as for our extended family, friends, and the community we cherish.
Growing up in a small town much like Cashiers, I was deeply shaped by my grandfather, Robert Clemens Bucher, who, as Township Supervisor, created public parks, preserved open space, and generously supported community causes. His legacy taught me that giving back is one way to heal a broken heart.
Not a day passes without Katelyn and Dan touching our thoughts. Our hope is that these sacred spaces—the butterfly garden, the swing, and now the Pergola—will invite others to remember: life can bring deep heartache, but love never fails. Grief can coexist with joy, and the spirit lives on forever.
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